June 8, 2020

3 Ways to free yourself from self-doubt, frustration, and very low self-esteem

It’s the year 2020 and there’s just so much going on at the same time. We are all thinking about keeping ourselves, families, and friends all together safe, while trying to become winners—whether in career, business and relationships. This might get too overwhelming for someone who is just trying to keep everything together and make it through each day. And usually, in these difficult times, this is also the time when self-doubt, frustration and very low self-esteem begins—which is much worse than a virus. Yes, because having to deal with it every day, will affect your mental, emotional, and physical health. There is also no over-the-counter medicine for it. Only you can provide your own vaccine.

So amidst all the things that is happening today, let me remind you something: You have everything you need in you. You can turn things around and strengthen your core. You are worthy. You are capable and you will make it through. And how do we do that? Well, the health department would be anxious for violating safety precautionary measures against coronavirus, but I will suggest these three things anyway:

1. Don’t Wear your Mask.


Yes, you read it right. Stop wearing your Mask. By this I meant the mask that you wear to cover up something you are lacking of, or worse, pretending to be someone you are not. Aside from the fact that you cannot really hide it all the time and surely you cannot always watch your back with self-denial from a very powerful destructive force. Yes, it is true, it will give you immediate but short-term acceptance and happiness, but believe me, in the long run, it will just result to guilt and disappointment. 

Self-acceptance is undeniably the best source of self-empowerment. As cliché as it may sound but I’ll drop it anyway: “If you cannot love, trust, and believe in yourself, dreams, and visions, then nobody else will.”

Today, I encourage you to take off your mask. Free yourself from all the lies and pretentions. Embrace your flaws and imperfections, own them! Nobody’s perfect. There will always be somebody better that you and there are people you are better than in so many ways. Only in being true to yourself, you can truly control and steer to wherever you want to go. 

2. Stop washing your hands.


It’s okay, don’t come clean anymore. Recognize how imperfect you are. There is so much beauty in those imperfections and it is what makes you different among others. Let yourself be vulnerable and stop avoiding the things that hurt you. Here’s an example: You want to be a great cook but you’re too insecure about your cooking ‘cause your friends say it tastes bad? I mean after putting so much time and effort to it, that’s what you get? It hurts, doesn’t it? Well, no matter how hurtful it is, just take it constructively, accept it, and keep trying to improve yourself. Take it as a challenge. You shouldn’t let your mistakes, failures and difficulties stop you from developing your skills and doing the things you love the most. 

Today, I encourage you to list down all the things and traits that you despise from yourself, the things you’re good at and things you could be great at. Acknowledge what you have and what you lack. Know your strength and weaknesses. Building on those strengths, and knowing how to deal with your limitations, can give you an even bigger boost.

Remember, growth begins when we start to accept our weaknesses. Develop your competencies, and go get it girl!

3. Get your “Corona.”


I know this is something we are all trying to avoid this year. But, yes, get your “corona” and spread it! Getting your crown means truly owning yourself and being the only person to let “you define yourself”. It also means being confident with who you are. Be proud of yourself, it’s not bad to appreciate and give yourself a little compliment. 

This is also where the “Law of Attraction” plays an important role. Practice saying Positive things and affirmations. Remember: Words have Power. Here’s the thing, the I AMs coming out of your mouth that really comes from your heart will either bring you failure or success. What follows the I AM will always come looking for you. You always say you’re ugly and fat? Then all the stress and calories will come looking for you. Try doing it the other way, believe me, it will result to something better.

Wear your “Crown’, try spreading it. Notice the good in your friends, families, or even colleagues. Make their rainy days feel sunny and warm.

Have a great day, beautiful!
Written by

Ayo Di is a broadcast journalist, motivational speaker, and a millennial entrepreneur. Her love for sharing stories of courage, inspiration, and success landed her a job in a media company, where she was nominated as best field reporter in 2018. In her teenage years, she devoted her time facilitating leadership and personal development trainings for various youth groups. As an entrepreneur and fitness enthusiast, she makes guiltless desserts and promotes healthier options for people. As her brand Corazon’s translates, it is preparing hearty and freshly baked goodies for everyone to enjoy. Also, ask her about the best milk tea places or anything about dogs, she’ll be crazy about it. Get in touch with her on:

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